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Kingdom Marriage 5 - Parenting


"... bring them up ..."

Ephesians 6'4.


The wonder of producing a child comes to God's marrieds when He gives special life to their love with conception. And parenthood begins, right there!

First-time parents are particularly stunned and delighted when a baby arrives, and more so the Believers who receive them with thanksgiving.

For them more thanksgiving follows with a celebration among the Lord's Family to present the baby to Him on His day.

Think of the comparison of when Mary and Joseph presented the new-born Jesus. They had to follow the Law of Moses. What they were required to do emphasises how simple things are for believing parents today:

"... when eight days were completed for the circumcision of the Child, His name was called Jesus, the name given by the angel before He was conceived in the womb.

Now when the days of her purification according to the law of Moses were completed, they brought Him to Jerusalem to present Him to the Lord," Luke 2'21-22.

Despite the very unusual situation that Mary and Joseph were each going through, not the least this virgin birth, they obeyed with a sincere worshipful disposition. 

How wonderful it is to be able to present new babies to our heavenly Father in Jesus' name. And to have the family of God in agreement with Parents who desire to bring up their child according to His will.

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With the blessings of being yoked together in marriage comes the sharing of responsibilities. With pregnancey these take on more importance.

Being part of the critical growth of a new human being means that new are things added, some of them unpractised, even unknown.

Learning as much as possible at the beginning of pregnancy is a confidence builder. 

During the tough routines of the early months it's helpful to have agreement on future behavioural routines, even before the child is able to understand spoken or "body" language.

One very important thing to agree on is being consistent. It is something parents owe to their children. Security begins to build in a child who encounters a common position from both parents.

While scripture exhorts children to obey their parents they must also learn, from their first day, that Dad and Mum are in harmony.

Parents seem to naturally expect their growing children to obey them. But children naturally test their parents' unity as part of discovering where the lines are. And they take advantage of any discord very quickly.

When a disagreement does arise, it should not be allowed to develop in the presence of the child but be resolved at a later time.

Keeping control of feelings (and tongues!) and not contradicting one another in front of the child is always a challenge.

It's always sad to hear a parent talk negatively or jokingly about their child to other adults in the child's presence. Or when a parent involves their child in adult problems or conversations. Such things are likely to have sad consequences.

Above all, plenty of mutual encouragement between the Parents is essential - especially when the occasional "lapse" occurs.


Dads are responsible!:

"You, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath,

but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord," Ephesians 6'4.

Just as Children are to obey, Fathers are to be loving:

"Children, obey your parents in all things, for this is well pleasing to the Lord.

Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged," Colossians 3'20-21.

When Children who grow to have greater understanding they can experience the promise that obedience brings with it:

"Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.

'Honour your father and mother,' which is the first commandment with promise:

'that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth'," Ephesians 6'1-4.