Kingdom Marriage 4 - Married
"heirs together of the grace of life,"
1 Peter 3'7.
Kingdom husbands and wives are equally yoked together. What happens to one, happens to the other. They move forward in everyday life bonded to one another - and to the Lord.
Aquila and Priscilla are a great example of two such Believers who have this godly "togetherness".
As if to emphasise this their names appear six times in the Book of Acts, always together:
"And he (Paul) found a certain Jew named Aquila, born in Pontus, who had recently come from Italy with his wife Priscilla," Acts 18'2.
"So Paul still remained a good while. Then he took leave of the brethren and sailed for Syria, and Priscilla and Aquila were with him," Acts 18'18.
"So he (Apollos) began to speak boldly in the synagogue. When Aquila and Priscilla heard him, they took him aside and explained to him the way of God more accurately," Acts 18'26.
"Greet Priscilla and Aquila, my fellow workers in Christ Jesus," Romans 16'3.
"The ekklesia of Asia greet you. Aquila and Priscilla greet you heartily in the Lord, with the ekklesia that is in their house," 1 Corinthians 16'19.
"Greet Prisca and Aquila, and the household of Onesiphorus," 2 Timothy 4'19.
In these six references each is mentioned first alternately. Is the Holy Spirit making a point?
Clearly they loved the Lord, His work and to building up His Saints.
YOKED IN FREE WILL
As Saints equally yoked together, the exercise of free will in marriage involves guaranteeing the other's free will in the knowledge that each is equal in the Lord.
Of course, this is not about developing one's own free will. It may be that when free will is practised in the bond of love the couple will find themselves yielding it to the other.
The couple should consider what the reality of practicing free will means right at the beginning of being betrothed.
CULTURE AND MARRIAGE
The changes in lifestyle for each of a newly-wed couple usually involve adjustments that they are likely to find difficult to sort out, beginning with basic differences between manhood and womanhood.
Some changes are unexpected and initially hard to understand, whereas others simply need only to be acknowledged.
Nevertheless, some national or racial cultural characteristics can cause discomfort because they are expressed without thinking that they require explanation.
Differences may also arise out of the previous personal, family, religious or ungodly experiences. All require patience to clarify and sort out.
Also, there are the routine questions about common domestic things and who-does-what. Chores like cooking, dealing with rubbish, recycling, household chores, gardening, maintenance, etc, need to be discussed and decided upon.
Talking about every thing openly and in love serves to strengthen relationships. This thwarts the enemy's attempts to cause disharmony.
Ephesians 4'26-27 exhorts:
"Be angry and do not sin;
do not let the sun go down on you wrath,
nor give place to the devil".
While understandings, habits, etc, remain a challenge, remember that Jesus is Lord. And that saying "please" and "thank you", being quick to say "sorry" and asking for forgiveness bring peace and please the Lord.
A spouse should never feel that they are being taken for granted. Success lies in both showing their love and submission to each other by:
the husband learning about and lovingly fulfilling his part in being married and
the wife learning about and submissively fulfilling her part in being married.
"Let no one seek his own, but each one the other’s well-being,"
1 Corinthian 10'24.
Daily living in God's Kingdom is the most human way of living. It's naturally spiritual and spiritually natural. As with all relationships in the Body of Christ:
"... be kind to one another,
tenderhearted, forgiving one another,
just as God in Christ forgave you,"
Prayer. Loving heavenly Father, thank you that Kingdom marriage has its origin in you and glorifies you.
Thank you, too, for your loving hand on every believing married couple as they lead their lives in joyful, healthy holiness, of spirit, soul and body.
In Jesus' name. Amen.